React and Regret: When Emotions Cost More Than You Realize

How low emotional intelligence—and undiagnosed conditions—can damage your career and relationships

We’ve all had those moments. A sharp comment in a meeting. A cold response to a coworker. An angry email we wish we could unsend.

In the moment, these reactions feel justified. But later, when emotions cool, regret sets in. You realize your words or actions were disproportionate—or even harmful. Apologies may follow, but sometimes, the damage is done.

At PRX Wellness, we call this cycle “React and Regret”, and it’s more common than people realize.

Why It Happens

“React and Regret” is often a result of low emotional intelligence (EQ)—the ability to recognize, manage, and respond to emotions. People with lower EQ may:

• Struggle to pause before reacting

• Misread others’ intentions

• Over-personalize criticism or disagreement

• Let anger or frustration drive their behavior

But there’s more to the story. In many cases, these reactions aren’t just about EQ—they may be tied to undiagnosed mental health conditions, such as:

• ADHD, which impairs impulse control and emotional regulation

• Anxiety, which fuels overreactions rooted in fear or defensiveness

• PTSD, which may cause heightened reactivity or misperceived threats

When left untreated, these conditions can disrupt professional relationships and put careers at risk—even when a person means well.

The Real-World Impact

In a workplace setting, "React and Regret" behavior can:

• Erode team trust

• Create a hostile work environment

• Trigger HR involvement

• Put promotions or employment in jeopardy

Even if apologies are sincere, they may not be enough to repair the fallout—especially when negative behavior becomes a pattern.

Three Mental Wellness Tips to Break the Cycle

1. Use the 10-Second Rule

Before reacting, count to 10. This simple pause activates the rational part of the brain and interrupts impulsive behavior.

2. Question Your First Thought

Ask yourself: “Am I interpreting this correctly?” or “Could there be another explanation?” This creates space to challenge knee-jerk assumptions.

3. Reflect with Intent

Keep a brief journal or log of emotional reactions. Identifying patterns—especially in repeated conflicts—can reveal underlying issues worth exploring with a provider.

Final Thoughts: There Might Be More Going On

If you consistently find yourself reacting strongly and regretting it later, consider this: it may not just be a personality quirk or “bad temper.” It could be a sign of an untreated mental health condition.

At PRX Wellness, we help adults uncover what's driving their emotional reactivity—whether it’s ADHD, anxiety, PTSD, or something else. From professional evaluations to emotional regulation strategies, we’re here to support your growth, personally and professionally.

You don’t have to live in the React and Regret cycle. You can learn to respond—with clarity, empathy, and control.

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